In the comments thread of the last post, Kris put up a link to a Time magazine story from 2007. It was published on January 19, three years ago almost to the day.
Yes, it's anecdotal, but it's part of a growing body of anecdotes of this sort. Ronald Reagan, in the last stages of Alzheimer's, is said to have had a similar, though less dramatic, moment of lucidity immediately before he passed on.
"At the last moment when his breathing told us this was it, he opened his eyes and looked straight at my mother. Eyes that had not opened for days did, and they weren't chalky or vague," Reagan's daughter Patti Davis wrote. "They were clear and blue and full of life. If a death can be lovely, his was....
"In his last moment he taught me that there is nothing stronger than love between two people, two souls. It was the last thing he could do to show my mother how entwined their souls are and it was everything."
Anyway, the Time essay is a wonderful story, and if anyone hasn't read it yet, please do.
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The comments thread accompanying the article about Ronald Reagan contains many interesting stories. At the very least, these unsolicited comments give some idea of how common this phenomenon is. Most people probably don't talk about it, for fear of ridicule, but if they feel safe, they will open up:
My Father-in-law also had Alzheimer's and just before he died knew where he was and who his wife was. Perfectly lucid.
Both my parents had such a clear-eyed episode, and it feels incredible to the living. It's unmistakable. The hospice people ( angels in the flesh) told us this happens often at the very end.
My father too. You're right.
Reminds me of when my dad died. A similar thing happened.
I saw something very similar when my mother-in-law died 9 years ago, and when my wife died 7 years ago. Both died from cancer, at home, under hospice care rather than in the hospital.
My mother, who after suffering with cancer for 3 months and didn't recognize any of us for weeks, opened her eyes right before she died, looked at her 3 daughters who were sitting bedside, she looked each one of us in the eye, smiled, and went to be with God.
I was present with the family when my father in law died a few years ago. His cancer was at such an advanced state that he was nearly catatonic before he passed. In the last few minutes of his life, as his labored breathing got worse, his eyes opened fully and focused on each of us standing by his bed. They then focused on the door and he tried to speak. I remember looking behind me several times to see what was there and, of course, could not. I will forever believe that he said goodbye to all of us and greeted his "escort". I will one day have to ask him.
My paternal grandfather died in October 2002 at the age of 93. Other than arthritis, he was healthy until 24 hours before his passing. His kidneys stopped working suddenly and his blood pressure dropped to the point where he was virtually unconscious. Just before he died, my dad says he became alert and said "take me Lord Jesus, take me."
It reminds me of when my dad died too; so I believe this.
My mother was dying of cancer in December of 1988 and had been unconscious after surgery for two days. As she was gasping her last breaths, I held her hand and told her "Mom its Dan, I'm here with you." She never opened her eyes but to my amazement she said my name aloud and then took her last couple of breaths.
I have heard of people who even after being in a coma, rose up on their beds and exclaimed the beauty of something, some place, that only they could see. People have called out in greeting to loved ones, long dead. The mother of a friend of mine, dying of cancer, described seeing Jesus, that He was on a field of grass with a crowd of others, and was calling her to come dance with Him.
My dad was dying of cancer and heavily medicated. I was stationed in the Azores (a long way from California) when my mom's neighbor called and said I had to get home as my dad was terminal with cancer and didn't have long to live.... It took me 5 days to get to the hospital. All my siblings were already there and my mom was with my dad. My mom woke dad, he looked at her very groggily, then I took his hand, he looked at me and became very lucid and had a look of great surprise and then it seemed like he was looking over my shoulder and went back to sleep. He died about 30 minutes later. Mom said he was waiting for me to get home.
My sister's gramma-in-law actually came back to her senses and recognized everyone just before she passed, after years of suffering from Alzheimer's.
My mother experienced something similar with her husband at the moment he died. No question in my mind there was a moment of lucidity just before he passed into eternity.
When my grandmother was dying after suffering from years of Alzheimer's, she opened her eyes and was as lucid as any person without the disease. Before she took her last breath she looked me in the eyes and said, "I see Wesley and he is so handsome. I see Jesus." Then she smiled a beautiful smile and breathed her last. Only the nurse and I were there with her and we both rejoiced at her release. Wesley was my father who had passed prior to her passing. My grandmother had not spoken for over a year and the only sounds she had made were grunts and such. When my father was dying of cancer 4 years prior to my grandmother's passing he was was comatose for the last week of his life. When we knew the end was near we called my brother in. My mom, my brother and I were around his bed praying and singing hymns. At one point I leaned down and whispered to him, "Daddy, you can go now. We will be alright. We will take care of mama." He opened his eyes and looked at me and moved his lips as if to say "thank you" and with that he was gone.
My grandma passed away last February, I wasn't at her bedside when she passed, but she had a heart attack stabilized briefly and was pending surgery. She was very afraid to have surgery, then took a sudden turn towards death. My cousin was at her bedside and said at the very end My grandma opened her eyes wide, held up her right hand and said " Oh dear Lord, I'm Going " then passed.
I entered the ICU room where my father was held after an unsuccessful surgery. He was talking to "someone" in the empty chair next to him. He was describing buying seed at the Feed Store - mustard seed. My dad loved turnip greens, but couldn't stand mustards, but mustard seed has a clear meaning in our faith. Soon he was laughing and waving at "friends" peeking through a window he pointed to the very middle of the room. The nurse just brushed this off as ICU narcosis, but I knew he was seeing spirits. It was actually a comfort to know he was going Home.
My mom died of cancer almost 19 years ago (still can't believe it) In the month before she died, the cancer was affecting her brain & she no longer recognized my father, me or her beloved grandsons. But when the ambulance came to transport her to Hospice, she turned to my father and in a lucid moment told him "I talked to Ya-Ya (my grandmother, her mother) last night and everything is going to be okay." My father knew at that moment that she was very near the end. She died about 28 hours later.
My grandmother said she saw an angel coming for her hours before she died. A week before he passed away, my father told us he grasped a baby's hand that reached out to take him home but he had not seen all of his kids yet and waited to die until he had. (The family always believed the baby that reached out for him was the child who was miscarried by one of my sisters.) One of my uncles who died at home surrounded by his family had been in a near-coma but awoke and smiled at all of them moments before he took his last breath.
My father collected antiques and historical memorabilia. He had about 10 antique clocks (that used to chime and bong just a few seconds apart and admittedly was sometimes very annoying). We returned home from the hospital after he died and discovered that 3 of his clocks had stopped at 9:38PM...listed as Time of Death on his death certificate.
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