I am no expert in Hinduism or any other Eastern religion. So far, my sole investigation of Hinduism has consisted of reading the Bhagavad Gita, a poem that contains the core teachings of the Hindu faith. Copies of the Gita are said to be found in hotel rooms throughout India, much as the King James Version of the Bible is frequently found in US hotels.
The Gita's date of composition is unknown and may be anywhere from the fifth century BC to the second century AD. It is apparently a later addition to a very long poem, the Mahabharata. One Web site summarizes the Gita this way:
The BHAGAVAD GITA is primarily a dialog between Arjuna, the third Pandava brother, and his charioteer, Krishna. Remaining neutral, Krishna allowed one side to use his vassals in battle, while the other side could have him as a charioteer although he would not fight himself. The old blind King Dhritarashtra declined a great sage's offer to give him sight for the battle, because he did not want to see the bloodshed. Instead the great sage gave Sanjaya the ability to perceive at a distance everything that was going on, and he describes the events for the King.
In the GITA Krishna, who is the uncle and friend of the Pandavas, gives Arjuna teachings on yoga, which means union and implies union with God. Krishna is considered by Hindus to be an incarnation of the god Vishnu, the preserver.
I will admit that much of the Gita went over my head. Like any religious text, it requires extensive (and intensive) study for full understanding. A casual reading will provide only superficial rewards. Nevertheless, there was one lesson taught by the Gita that I have found highly useful in my own life. The lesson is:
Commit to the process, detach from the outcome.
Now, what does this mean? Let's take a simple example. Say you're going on a diet. Your goal (the desired outcome) is to lose ten pounds. The method (or process) is to cut back on fattening foods.
There are two ways you could carry out your diet. You could weigh yourself daily, looking for any sign of weight loss. You could become frustrated because the weight is not coming off fast enough. You could then try starving yourself to get quicker results. Most likely, the starvation approach will lead only to anxiety and discomfort, and before long you will be off the diet altogether.
That's committing to the outcome, not the process. It doesn't work.
Here's the other approach. You don't weigh yourself at all. You forget all about your goal of losing ten pounds. Ten pounds, after all, is a somewhat arbitrary number; it could be nine pounds or eleven pounds; what matters is that you get healthier. The way to get healthier is to eat better - so you focus on that. You avoid snacks and desserts, eat smaller portions of more nutritious food, and enjoy the process of adapting to a fitter lifestyle. At the end of a month or two, you get on the scale - and find that you have lost at least some of the weight.
This is committing to the process and detaching from the outcome. And it works.
Examples could be multiplied indefinitely. Stuck in slow-moving traffic? If you commit to the outcome (getting to your destination), you will become more and more frustrated and may eventually be a nervous wreck or a candidate for road rage. If you commit to the process (the trip itself) and forget about the outcome (you'll get there when you get there), then you can relax, listen to the radio, watch the scenery, and arrive - eventually - in a calm, collected state of mind.
Writing a novel? Commit to the outcome (a finished book), and you will be frustrated by the number of pages left to go. Writing the book will become a chore, a dull slog through hundreds of pages with only a distant goal to keep you motivated. But commit to the process (the challenge of writing each chapter, or page, or paragraph), and you will enjoy the work, do a better job, and still get to your goal sooner or later.
Why does this method work? Because, for all our obsession with control, we cannot really control the outcome of anything we do. There is no guarantee we will reach our destination on time, or at all. We could get in a car accident and never arrive. There is no guarantee we will finish the book we're writing; we might die of a heart attack when we're halfway through (and if we are frustrated and upset all the time, the odds of cardiac arrest probably go up).
We cannot control what happens. We can control only what we do, how we approach the situation. We can't control outside events. We can control only our own mindset and response.
So ... commit to the process (which we can control) and detach from the outcome (over which we have no control).
One more example may make this principle clearer. You're going in for a job interview, and you really want to be hired. Should you commit to the outcome? In that case, your focus is on impressing the interviewer and trying to do so well in the interview that he can't help but hire you. In fact, however, you have no control over his hiring decision. Maybe he is going to hire his nephew for the position no matter how great a candidate you are. Maybe he will be irrationally prejudiced against you, or will just be in a bad mood on the day you see him. You cannot control him. And at some level you know this. But you feel that you must control him - somehow. You must find a way to attain the outcome you desire.
Result? You are agitated, self-conscious, under tremendous inner pressure. Your nervousness and desperation come across. You try to hide it, and end up only seeming that much more desperate. When you leave the interview, worn out and feeling sick to your stomach from stress, you know you didn't handle the interview well. You were too wound up to relax and be yourself.
But suppose you commit to the process and detach from the outcome ...
Then you go into the interview knowing that there is nothing you can do to compel anyone to hire you. It is out of your hands. If you are hired, fine. If not, then that's the way it goes. Whatever will be, will be. Your only priority is to do the best you can, without worrying about the result, which you can't control, anyway.
You focus on the meeting itself, not on the prospect of a hiring decision to be made later. You are in the moment. Because you have let go of your need to control and impress the other person, you can be at ease, relaxed and confident and articulate. When the meeting ends, you leave feeling fine, and put the interview out of your mind, knowing that you can do nothing further to affect the course of events.
Which strategy is more likely to get you the job? More important, which strategy is more likely to save you from needless stress, fear, inner conflict, frustration, anger, and feelings of helplessness and depression?
So this is the advice of the Bhagavad Gita, advice I recommend to anyone:
Commit to the process, detach from the outcome.
Try it. It works.
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