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Michael, you seem to be endorsing Jane Roberts-style new age thinking that we can create our own world.

Sometimes it can indeed seem possible to do this, when we're in a fairly untroubled stage of our lives. I've believed in it myself, for a while. But one day on the road, suddenly, bad things happen. ("Where did that come from? Not from me, surely!").

I remember reading Gill Edwards book "Living Magically -In a Conscious Universe every dream can come true". It went right to the end of this road...where, tragically, she died young of cancer.

Michael, I'm enjoying this foray into the mind of the Right Man, although I'm getting more out of the discussion than I can possibly add.
It reminds me of an article challenging the limits of physics that I bookmarked a few days ago, from a link via The Daily Grail. The author, Margaret Wertheim, does an excellent job of underscoring the hubris of modern day materialist physics thinking, and the futility of considering fundamental questions about the cosmos from only one perspective. Excellent stuff:

http://www.aeonmagazine.com/world-views/margaret-wertheim-the-limits-of-physics/

I hate saying this sort of thing Michael because not only does it sound patronizing but also as if I'm somehow gifted with greater insight than you but to me at least you seem to be growing exponentially saner with virtually every blog you write.

But even if that only means you're just as insane as I am then hey at least you know you're not alone!

As to the Right Man idea I'm minded of two ideas from separate cultures which suggest the Right Man's not quite what he seems to be or rather in his shoes or similar circumstances we might all be Right Men.

The first one's the Tibetan notion the tribal butcher ie the individual designated to slaughter animals for eating should be someone who can't bear doing cruelty to animals and certainly not someone who enjoys the act.

When you think of the number of British serial killers who've worked in abattoirs this seems almost obvious.

And to give a personal example I once worked in a bar were the assistant manager was a complete cow until she realised she was receiving the same dough as the rest of us for twice the amount of work. The moment she became a regular barperson she became divine and I had to ask why? Her explanation was it was the first time she'd been a boss and somehow it went to her head.

The second idea's the Sufi one of the Veil of Light which's the idea the moment we start thinking of ourselves as the good guys it allows us to carry out actions infinitely more vile than the worst attrocities of the supposed bad guys because we constantly tell ourselves when they do it it's of course unwarranted evil but when we do it it's because it's regretable but necessary and though the two things may seem the same in reality they're utterly different.

In the future I suspect the distorting effects of power and powerlessness'll be common knowledge.

In the same way I suspect most people can presently conceive and have a degree of sympathy for someone poor suddenly finding millions of bucks accidentally deposited in their bank account and completely losing all self control.

In the future I suggest people who experience that won't be punished but'll be handsomely financially compensated for being put through such an ordeal.

In the same way in the future people'll finally realise the different potential distorting effects of wealth and poverty on different kinds of people and people who keep try'n'o turn their millions into billions then trillions will be recognised as mentally ill and no different from hoarders who not only hold onto a life time of their own junk but strive to accumulate everyone else's too.

And maybe in the near future we'll finally have a President/Prime Minister who on retiring'll at last tell the world the horrible truth there's no worse job for conflicting and corrupting the human soul and how every subsequent second of life remainsing to ex-Presidents/Prime Ministers's spent wondering who was that person I became and why did he carry out all those appalling acts?

The shrinks have said Himmler, Stalin etc. had "infantile personality disorders". That is to say they were like two year old infants who had to control every aspect of their world and went into screaming fits of rage if things didn't work their way. This sounds like "Right Man" - someone whose personality growth has not progressed beyond the infant level.

Barbara,

Interesting you mention Jane Roberts, as yes, the 'you create your own reality' idea was popularised in large part to her.

I wasn’t sure about this at first but over the years, I keep returning to the idea.

At first it seems to be liable to the typical skeptical jokes that despite hours of positive thinking, I still wasn’t going out with Jennifer Aniston! Or bringing up a case of someone who stated that they didn’t 'believe' in cancer, only to later die of cancer.

However, many of these objections/jokes are actually based on a very superficial view of Jane Roberts' philosophy. In fact, I suspect that these people have probably never actually read any of the source material.

Actually, the material is a lot more subtle than that. Jane Roberts/Seth says that thoughts do NOT create reality: It is not about what you are thinking, it is what you *believe*. i.e. we all create what we believe, not necessarily what we want. Creating what we believe and creating what we want is not the same thing. We all create things that we do not want, all of the time.

Seth describes a division between the ‘outer ego’ and the ‘inner ego’. Our reality is driven by the inner ego (the subconscious / unconscious) where our fundamental beliefs are kept. The outer ego is our normal waking desires, attitudes and surface assumptions.

The key is not to change the outer ego, it is to change the beliefs of the inner ego. This is much more difficult, and it is not simply a case of 'positive thinking'.

Many have jumped on the positive thinking bandwagon over the years, discrediting the whole subject with the endless list of self help books etc, but you can engage in all the 'positive thinking' you like, but unless you change what you actually believe, and I mean what you actually, truly believe, at a core level, then nothing will change.

As for Gill Edwards, well, who really knows why, when and how we ‘choose’ to die anyway? We still don’t really know why people leave us when they do. Perhaps they don’t even know themselves. Perhaps it all comes down to that flatworld issue we touched on earlier, where nothing much here makes sense until we adopt a higher dimensional awareness. Certainly, NDEs seems to suggest that a lot of things make sense from a higher dimensional awareness, it’s just so frustrating that due to the very nature of the experience, it’s largely impossible to retain awareness upon recovery into our ‘normal’ world.

Thanks for this post Michael, I have struggled with a debilitating anxiety disorder for many years. Ideas like the one you put forth in this post for coping with the external world are very helpful as I continue to recover. I've nothing of real interest to add on the subject of your post, but I did want to extend my thanks.

Glad I could help a little, Eric. Here's another post I wrote on coping with anxiety:

http://michaelprescott.typepad.com/michael_prescotts_blog/2007/04/separation_anxi.html

Alan, thanks for the kind words!

"Michael, you seem to be endorsing Jane Roberts-style new age thinking that we can create our own world."

Not exactly. Wilson describes it as "tuning in" to one aspect of reality or another. All aspects exist; it's a question of which ones we focus on.

For instance, if we're having a conversation with someone in a park, we can tune in to the conversation, or to the scenery, or to a daydream, etc. All of these things are part of existence; even the daydream is "real" in the sense that it is a real mental event. Our personal reality is determined from moment to moment by which potentiality we actualize for ourselves out of a range of options. Meditation and other such practices encourage us to widen the range of our options and tune in to a greater spectrum of possibilities, rather than being trapped in a repetitive groove, tuning in to the same things over and over - a form of self-hypnosis (Wilson says), which in its extreme form presents itself as the Right Man syndrome.

As far as my airport experience is concerned, I don't necessarily make any metaphysical claims for it. I just think it may be a therapeutically useful way of thinking.

I agree Michael, there is technique to this, although like everything, to change ones thinking needs practise and takes time.

Interestingly like you, I have had anxious moments over the years, and flying is not something I am keen on. Now I don't really care that it might crash, its more being squashed in with people- more to do with "social phobia" rather than "agoraphobia" which your anxiety may fall into. Enough jargon..

For me, having training in this area it tends to make it worse, as I know all the info so it renders it somewhat less affective.

Like you, and not only for anxiety, but depression too, it is in essence a form of and caused by separation. When you are depressed and anxious, you are caught up in yourself, and your internal dialogue. Which is why cognitive techniques help, in rerouting your thinking.

Interestingly, I have used similar techniques, realising that I saw situations as "me and them". And that much of my anxiety was to do with what they thought- once again me opposed to them.

So like you, I tried to connect to anything around me, I used to look at their socks or their hair, and try to find something to laugh about them. Now I try to connect more to people around me, so that I am connecting to their heart and building a relationship, much like you saw the airport as a whole. In essence I was doing the same, making wholes instead of separation. Bringing the world in...

Now I find, particularly flying, and its only when on my own, I eat alot more. Having read that seratonin levels are increased simply by eating, and it helps to ally anxiety. When you think about it, you use more energy when anxious, so you need more calories anyway.

Sharing Eric, with those round you can help, whether starting a conversation or saying you are uncomfortable. To be honest if people are not caring, then they are not the sort of people you would like to know anyway, and alot of people care. Taking small risks helps too, they buoy you up and make you feel more accomplished, do something a little scary perhaps with a friend or ask family member, or only when you feel capable. It can be anything at all.

I find now that I'm older, I do more to help myself in situations, and I ask for more than I used to. I,m a bit less insular. I can control my thinking better in situations as well and how I want them to go, age is a great help though with the thinking. Lyn x.

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