"I never thought of myself as a driven person - until I stopped being one."
- Barbara Sher, It's Only Too Late if You Don't Start Now (p. 6)
"After about four decades we look up and the handwriting is on the wall. We will not be the lucky ones who have no sorrow, no failures, no losses ... Our frantic struggle to fight off the inevitable is failing. Inside, we can feel ourselves beginning to tire of this battle, but we know we have to struggle harder than ever before just to stay in place ... What's the alternative, the descent into a permanent state of second best? ...
"What you're not supposed to know yet is that beneath all this striving and torment is an authentic original self ... And that this superb creature doesn't even appear until the narcissist [inside you] loses its struggle to be the favorite [and] the drama is over."
- Ibid (pp. 23-24)